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A VISIT TO SHARJAH NATIONAL PARK

I visited the park yesterday afternoon. It’s a huge campus not far away from Sharjah airport.

I got an opportunity to try out my photography skills. It was an wonderful experience for me to be with nature and among many children.

It was new year day and the park was quite crowded. It’s lush green every where as far as i could see. I felt good connecting myself with nature. I could hear the noise of birds.

I found people everywhere outing with family. I was delighted to see children playing. Children of all age i found. Infants in stroller, small kids learning to walk along with their parents and other school going children.

I never saw before so many people together at one place in this part of the world. After a long walk i found a nice place over the lawn to sit and watch the setting sun. Then i started capturing few of the beauties of nature.

I was sitting at a little distance from another family. I saw two kids there and a little girl watching me. I was busy with my cellphone browsing photos. At this time the little angel started running at me. I don’t know her point of attraction and i guess it could be her curiosity to see my activities and desire to play with me.

She was so happy running towards me and suddenly fell down at a distance close to me. Parents unaware of this and busy with their work. She started crying looking at me. The lawn was sloppy and she fell down with her left shoe open because of loose lace.

I paused all my activity and rushed at her. I talked to her and caressed. I helped her wear her shoes well with tight lace. She was quite comfortable by this time and completely stopped crying. She was quite comfortable with touch of my hand while wearing shoes.

Now she was smiling at me and offered me a small ball from her pocket to play with her. We played together for few minutes. At this time her mother walked to us and offered me a cup of tea. Her father soon joined and they talked to me for few minutes as if i belong to their family and not a stranger. They wished me happy new year.

They soon left with her daughter as evening approached and it became darker. While walking with her parents she looked back several times at me.

I don’t know what bond she developed in this short period. I felt like she was walking away without her wish. Ohh, i can’t express my feelings in words. I felt pity for the poor innocent little angel. They all disappeared from my vicinity in some time.

It’s not just another life experience for me. It’s more of the values i revisited. I was filled with joy of my childhood. Children are the best gift of god. They teach us great values like innocence and friendship. Why do we forget these values with time as we reach adulthood?

In a place far away from my direct family members, for the first time i felt to be part of a global family.

I have nothing more to write now. Let the pics tell more.


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NEW YEAR RESOLUTIONS

Here are few of my new year resolutions!

    • –  Don’t hurt anyone
    • –  Make people more happy
    • –  Lift up humanity enriching more human values
    • –  Associate yourself with more community work
    • –  Visit a school and talk to children
    • –  Speak well before your audience anywhere reachable (in a school, at a get  together, in your office or a public place)
    • –  Prepare talk show videos and share in your channel ( people have different interests. Some want to read more and few may like to watch and listen more of you)
    • –  Help others realize their life goals
    • –  Set a new goal and plan for action
    • –  Work out well on already set goals
    • –  Read more, write more, speak more often and share more…

If you like this and find few common in your list, let me know how you plan and act.

I am eager to know your thoughts.
What more and better i should do.
What and how do you do to execute your goals better.

Keep sharing…


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A NEW YEAR RESOLUTION – NOT TO CHEAT OUR OWN SELF

Why is it important to respect a relationship? A past relationship, our present relationship or a relationship born in mind which never got fruition.

We may get victimised under conflict situations with or without our intention. These conflict situations may arise out of inadequate or improper communication between two or more people.

Unable to find the correct route people tend to hide themselves. They tend to have a self-talk and convince themselves to leave the matter as it is. They think all will be well with time. Let’s forget it and get on to work.

Keeping silent and not taking any action is the worst thing to do. I feel like no human caused issue gets resolved automatically. We need to take action. God has not created five fingers equally. Each one built to serve a different purpose but they work well in unison. Similarly each individual has there own thought process and way of working.

Irrespective of our thought process we need to take action – to solve a purpose. It is to help our own and it ,ay help others overcome a difficult to do situation, How can another person understand what’s going in your mind unless you express correctly?
People take years to understand each other even after a long stay together and still there is no guarantee. We should not blame others for our own fault. It’s quite not justifiable to set any expectation from people in the category of acquaintances (though not strangers).

Self betrayal can cause you lot of pain. The after effect may go against you. It will be too hard to make peace with your past. Don’t get victimised too for others actions. Do your best not to cause such issues or yourself be part of it.

It’s dangerous to conduct experiments on human beings. Do a calculation for all pros, cons and other probability beforehand if it’s really required to conduct such an experiment. There is great probability to hurt people and their emotions in this process. Beware of the possible outcome and be careful.

There is a common question arising in mind. What if I don’t have a choice to meet and talk to people face to face? Even then you need to find a medium to pass on the correct message timely. Time is the most important entity here and your action will lose it’s value significantly unless taken in time.

Talk to yourself and follow your heart. In a conflict situation, don’t make random guesses. It’s always a better idea to reach out to people and talk face to face. This can save you a lot of time to solve an issue.

In my observation it’s not possible to completely decode thoughts in another mind without making any communication for a long time. We need to keep in touch with people if we wish to understand them well.

We all together can lift humanity to its next level…

I wish all a successful new year!


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POWER OF LOVE

Before thinking and writing on this topic, I wish all my blog readers and well wishers a Merry Christmas…

I had discussion with many on this topic in the past. People have different views. I want to share here few of my own views as i see it through the journey of my life.

Love should never die even with the ugliest of truths.

No preconditions allowed to be set for love.

This is not love but a deal with life when people think like i am this and this is my preference. Now you are this and i can love you only when you become this and able to fulfill my needs. This is selfish expectation from life.

Love is sacred and beyond all these thoughts. It is so fresh and airy, it can only lift our soul up. We may go into depression at times when our desires not fulfilled and demand not met. But these thoughts are temporary and vanish over time when we realise the power of love.

Love gives new life and never death. It guides us in a new direction to rediscover ourselves and find the true purpose of life.

To understand unselfish love we can think of the love and affection that parents have for their children. They have no demand but only love and care in return. They feel joyous with the growth and success of their children.

Lot more to think and write…


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ON LONELINESS & RELATIONSHIPS

Loneliness is just a mindset. We are never lonely when we have developed good habits to lead our life and disciplined ourselves. For a disciplined living we can build TODO lists for our own and prioritise our self-owned tasks. We need to verify our DONE list too at regular intervals and make a note of all backlogs. To lead is to assign tasks yourself in sync with your life goals and not to wait for something to be assigned to you. After all it’s your life and you need to take charge.

Sometimes we find loneliness too boring and at times we feel it like a blessing. We want to complete few pending tasks and this is the best time as we can’t achieve great results among a crowd. You just want to be with you and in the presence of God as your guardian. None other.

I often feel lonely in the absence of friends and family around me. This is a common case with many of us who don’t find many options to choose from rather than staying at a distant place away from our loved ones. Most of the time we impose such restrictions on us to meet our financial needs. And all this at the cost of our happiness. We often talk to our own when we don’t find anybody around to express ourselves. We indulge in watching TV, playing games and in my case I prefer reading & writing. Many have their own habits as per choice.

What makes you happy? Is it your relationship with others, your bank balance or both? There is no common consensus but in most cases people talk about money as their prime source of happiness.

Our mind from our childhood was conditioned to earn more money for a better living and successful relationships. We are even told to study hard and be on top of all in competition to be more successful and make more wealth. Money even breaks relationships but people still prefer money over relationships.

The thought process is like this – I must do a good job and make a lot of money to secure my future for a better living. We are in no mood to do a compromise even when we can get a less lucrative job at our hometown. Our only motivation is money and a high class society. And we believe we can chase our dream only when we work with topnotch MNCs who can offer us a fat paycheck.

Have you ever felt yourself isolated even when you are among people – say your coworkers or among a group of friends on a weekend? If your answer is yes you must have a solid reason for that. In my case it used to be so on many occasions few years back but not anymore. I will tell you my reason some other time. You write and share your story with me.

We need to be truthful to our own first. We should not always try to please others and lead a false life claiming something I have sacrificed for her/him. This is purely self betrayal. We can’t please everyone in our life and there is no need to try that too. You can have a fulfilling life if you are at peace with others as much as with your own. An agitated mind can’t build fruitful relationships. Loneliness disappear with strong relationships. You can build that with people, environment (plants & animals) and also with the books you like. A good bookshelf is like a company of friends.

We should not blame anyone for a failed relationship. It’s up to us how to safeguard a relationship. We can find hundreds of ways to stay in touch with people we want in our life. The real question is our level of interest and commitment. We must be in a position to build an environment of trust, respect and friendship with all. Few relationship born and die with our mind because of the mind games we play with people. Timely action can save these relationships to last longer.

People in our lives influence our behaviour. We can always stay positive in a company of like minded people. This is the only challenge I feel. Yes, it’s important to build a circle of like minded people. They may not necessarily belong to our family only. I make friends even among strangers where I find opportunity to learn and share.

Life is stressful when we fail to find the right people in our life. Our life should be rich with people who stand for us at the time of need. They need not always support us but we must like them even for a criticism. They are always there to guide us do better. A genuine criticism from a friend worth much more than a false praise of an acquaintance.

Most of our connection at any social media like Facebook are just there to make us feel their presence by their posts. They hardly talk to us or message us. I used to receive a reply only when I initiate the communication. This is no generalisation but people prefer to stay among an elite group and for this very reason they use social networks as a medium of communication. They want to tell the world what they are up to. This is what people like these days.

I find very few initiate a call and ever try to know our well being.
I don’t say they are false connections as I never set any expectation from anyone. I believe in what I learn from others and what best I can do to all.

Ego comes into play with few on the way to effective communication. This is my recent experience when we planned and had a get together of our engineering batch mates after ten years. Few asked the same question to me you never called us except chatting over Facebook on few occasions. I really had little to explain but I could accept myself and able to keep in touch better now.

I tried and changed the context of our discussion to make it more humorous and less emotional. I told like it’s late I agree but I made it finally and happy to see you all together again after such a long gap. We had family get together with few friends during their stay at our hometown. It was a nice experience.

I felt good when thanked by others to plan this get together and taking the initiative. This thought was in my mind long back but struck me again when I started using WhatsApp and learn about WhatsApp groups. I was going through my photo album and this ideas came to mind. I found myself promptly in action the very next moment and formed a group without any delay. I had a firm belief I could find many of our friends again.

I remembered those golden days at college and felt sad how many of our friends I could keep in touch till date. Is not it possible to have a get together again? I reached out to few at Facebook and WhatsApp to share my thoughts. I formed a WhatsApp group and added those ten of our friends I was in touch. I made them all admin in the group. My thoughts got shape and our chain worked well. To my surprise we found 50 + people in the group in a weeks time from all our connection of friends who added others to the group. I found conversations day and night for first few days as if it is non stoppable now. Many played their blame game well on others for not keeping in touch so long.

This group is quite active even today after many months of its birth. Thanks to our NRI friends who keep us vigilant at times during night till late hours. I felt quite happy after knowing about successful pursuits of many of our friends. There are few millionaires now in the group by their effort and one among us recently joined the billionaire club by his net worth.

Everyone question us why did we stop calling others over phone? Well, they don’t feel good if you question back the same and I never asked that. We need to be silent when charged by others and wait for our turn to come. The more you listen others the better you can communicate your views and this is the rule in communication. Never disrupt others speaking and have respect for their views.

A relationship can tarnish if we set an expectation and fail to get expected results. I have freed myself from these emotions. I realised a simple fact quite late but have good understanding now. Everybody has their own journey of life. We may not be well aware of their journey and we should not question others with limited information. We only know about our own journey that the other person doesn’t know.

Let’s keep away with too many doubts in mind and feel happy for what we get as a result of our relationship. Your happiness graph can have a steeply upward curve if you can feel equally happy with the success and happiness of others as that of your own.