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GETTING INTO THE REAL WORLD

What is your real world? Let’s do an introspection. I am doing it, anyone can do and everyone should do at least once in their life. Sooner we do the better will be our prospects for a more rewarding life we all wish to have.

The introspection for me is to analyse “why do I prefer to stay much of my time away from the virtual world of technology with all my electronic devices?” On few occasions I felt like I am getting carried away with these devices with too much addiction. What made me think this all let me explain with an example from my personal experience.

I used to prefer public transport system over any other mode and travel frequently. Have you ever noticed what people love to do during their journey if you are a keen observer? I just love to observe people without venturing into their privacy. At the beginning of the journey you can find most in a happy mood. You can find few people reading newspaper/books, few others having some official/personal discussion, few with their own thoughts in pensive mood and few more people simply enjoying the weather and landscapes outside. Among youngsters you will mostly find people listening to music, watching a video or playing games like candy crush saga.

Suddenly after sometime we found ourselves caught in a traffic and our seemingly thirty minutes journey expected to take two hours now. Now just watch the change in mood of the same set of people looking quite happy a while back. You can find youngsters quite restless blaming the system, the road conditions, the government and so on. They are just fed up with their games/songs/videos and looking out to do something more but in vain. They just can’t find anything better to do. This happens when we used to spend time alone. This is the truth among most youngsters these days. They just don’t like to mingle with others and develop sound relationship.

On the other hand you can find little more aged people in the working class at more peace of mind. The more senior citizens are even at more peace busy with their discussion as if nothing really happened. They don’t show any sign of discomfort or hurry to reach their destination. It’s their maturity and conditioning they learned to live. They don’t fear to talk to a stranger sitting next to them and make friends. I am quite surprised to find what values we lost in this present generation.

Over exposure to technology may be causing you compromise on your personal space. Youngsters these days found to spend more time with their electronic gadgets rather than spending useful time with their family members and friends. Is it a good sign for our personal development? I am asking all this question as our social development has direct dependency.

I have been hearing this question a long time now whether rapid advancement in modern day technologies a boon or bane for human development. In this world of information technology powered by high speed internet, I have no doubt technology has many blessings for us when we can get vital information on our finger tips without wasting much time. I remember the days when I used to stand waiting in long queues to pay my electricity bill or phone bill. It’s no more a hassle these days for me.

There is yet another side to this truth. When I do a comparison I discover few more truths laughing at me on what I get and what I lost in this process. When I realise this I feel like even wasting time at times is more useful when we have the time to share our feelings and express ourselves. I am happy to discover at some corner of my heart the much needed humane touch is still alive that inspires me to live and show others the right direction to live a more fulfilling life.

I am not going to discard the use of technology for all that i used to do manually before like going to a bank to pay my credit card bill. I am doing that easily now on my smartphone using a banking application. But you can still find people following the same old approach by their choice. I too follow the same practice at times when my father asks me to pay the electricity bill. I used to take a copy of the bill and go to the nearest payment counter. Standing there waiting with others is simply a very different experience. It’s a conscious choice made to spend time there whenever I get an opportunity to spend time with family at my home town. This is the time when I have no work pressure have all the luxury to spend time on what I like to do.

If we find older people preferring the traditional way in their approach over the modern technology friendly approach, it could be a conscious choice by them as they want to live a life they want and don’t want a compromise on that. I don’t fully agree with youngsters today what they explain as the primary reason. They feel like they are not tech savvy and they don’t want to learn better use of technology as they like to stay in their comfort zone.

Do you agree? How much time you think will they take to learn playing a video game or learn using a smartphone if they find that interesting? We can never understand their emotions unless we experience a similar phase of life they went through. I have asked few questions to myself and sharing with you as it could be applicable in your life. When was the last I wrote a letter on paper and posted to a family member or friend? When was the last I talked to a friend in person rather than wishing her/him over phone or SMS? When did the last time we watched a movie together among all family members rather than watching alone? You may find and add many more questions to this list.

When we think about over exposure, it’s primarily concerned about the usage of technology and it’s impact on our day to day living.
A big question to ask would be how much is enough and at what age? Can we regulate this?

Now I am going to share with you the best part of this article that inspired me to think and write on this topic. This is like a story I received as a message on social media. It touched me and you may feel similar after reading it. Here it goes …


Worth Reading…Nice message

I had spent an hour in the bank with my dad, as he had to transfer some money. I couldn’t resist myself & asked…

”Dad, why don’t we activate your internet banking?”

”Why would I do that?”
He asked…

”Well, then you won’t have to spend an hour here for things like transfer.

You can even do your shopping online. Everything will be so easy!”

I was so excited about initiating him into the world of Net banking.

He asked ”If I do that, I won’t have to step out of the house?

”Yes, yes”! I said. I told him how even grocery can be delivered at door now and how amazon delivers everything!

His answer left me tongue-tied.

He said ”Since I entered this bank today, I have met four of my friends, I have chatted a while with the staff who know me very well by now.

You know I m alone…
this is the company that I need. I like to get ready and come to the bank. I have enough time, it is the physical touch that I crave.

Two years back I got sick, The store owner from whom I buy fruits, came to see me and sat by my bedside and cried.

When your Mom fell down few days back while on her morning walk, our local grocer saw her and immediately got his car to rush her home as he knows where I live.

Would I have that ‘human’ touch if everything became online?

Why would I want everything delivered to me and force me to interact with just my computer?

I like to know the person that I’m dealing with and not just the ‘seller’. It creates bonds/relationships.

Does Amazon deliver all this as well?”’

Technology isn’t life ..

Spend time with people .. Not with devices.

Do you have a second opinion?
I’d like you to share with me your thoughts on this topic and share this article with others in your circle if you like it. I enjoy my time reading and writing. I wish you do have a great time writing and sharing your experience.

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HAPPINESS SPEAKS

“Happiness is something to be discovered within and not outside ”

                                  – Anonymous

The following image explains a lot on happiness.

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Happiness is always there within and a natural tendency of all human beings. I have read and heard people talking about happiness during conversations. Most people I know wants to remain always happy and they don’t want to face insecurity or difficult times. They reject all negative factors coming on the way to our happiness.

Many among us believe difficult times are invited by our own thoughts and deeds. It’s not a byproduct of any action of others in our environment. I like these thoughts as an optimistic approach towards life.

Few other among us think like we are subject to get influenced by others in our environment as human beings are emotional by nature. They talk like we can’t make all happy and it’s better to work for our personal happiness. It sounds like a pessimistic thought but quite logical. So, I am not going to discard it completely.

The above two opinions are contradictory and set forth by two different groups of people. There is nothing to accept, reject or blame anybody as our thoughts are shaped by our personal experience in life.

It’s important to do an analysis and find how much happiness we can draw from within and much of it is completely dependent on external factors. We need a balance for better results as we must live in the society. We are responsible for our social environment and society can’t be rejected for personal happiness.

A good analysis followed by right actions may help us find more happiness and meaning to our life increasing the level of our happiness quotient.

If we can analyse the above graphical explanation well it’s possible to shape our thoughts in a positive direction and write an article.

I have already wrote something by this time with my random thoughts but still think it’s incomplete and should not be treated as an article. I think it’s incomplete without your opinions and I should update it at intervals when I learn better from your comments and suggestions.

Happy thinking, writing & sharing!!


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MAKE YOUR PAST GLORIOUS

BEING IN THE PRESENT

” We regret for our not so pleasant past as we fail to make it glorious. You don’t need a physical time machine. ”

                                   – Anonymous

Ohh No…. It should not have happened. I have lost my sleep and sweet dreams of childhood. Any such thought coming to your mind when you are already at an advanced stage in your life? No more worry now. I have a full proof solution for all.

You may find this blog title a laughing stuff at first sight. What is this all about? It this possible? You will find people easily who guide you like ‘just forget it’. Why do you want to remember something painful to you? Never ever fall to this mind game played by others. I don’t say they are not your well wishers and not asking you to ignore them.

They just have a different perspective to life as per their experience. You are not here to live their life. When shall you be able to lead your life if you entertain all these advice? Listen to your heart when you are in between a constant battle of your heart and mind.

I have a very simple question for you. Why is something painful to you and why do you get hurt easily? You can easily find the answer yourself. If you ask the same to me my answer will talk more about our mindset. Actually it’s because when we do things wrong and never because of the wrong doings by others. You have a great brain and a big heart. So, use it and discover life  in all it’s abundance full of  surprises and happiness.

We all can do it all living at our present. There is absolutely nothing to regret about or escape from. Our mind is such a big time machine. It’s cowardice to escape and we should never build such a plan in mind. To achieve this feat we need to start living life with honesty and not that of crooks.

All of us has huge storage of power and inner potential. Only very few of us recognise this fact and all they lack is the will power. Will power develops better when we think and act with our own mind and not that of others. Listen to your heart when you are in constant battle between your heart and mind.

I virtually forgot few past incidents that always resided in the memory of the subconscious mind. The decision was made in mind as that misguided me constantly telling me you must forget all these bad moments in life. I fell to the trap and did all I would have never done should I have listened to my heart.
I don’t regret but I feel like ohh my god… What a big blunder I committed as i could not bring much goodness to myself and that of others.

Yes, it’s my own deeds and never that of others. You can turn the table either in favour of you or against it by simple but powerful thoughts and unconditional acceptance.

When we live in solitude our mind becomes hyper creative full of thoughts when we revisit our past. No one there to disturb and you are on your own. Few hours of solitude daily may be good for a creative mind but too long a period could be like a prolonged illness. We need to be at a caution side in our calculations how much time we want to devote for each activity.

Many a times we face this question asked by our mind. Shall I make it, break it or simply escape. Sometimes we don’t gather enough courage to face a situation and the weaker zone of our mind guides us to escape. Is that the need for any life challenging situation? Never a good idea.

I am narrating an example. Can you face a person and look straight into the eyes whom you hurt knowingly? Imagine such a situation in your past. The ego mind may misguide you and tell you like “no no.. don’t worry too much. What you did is correct only and this person doesn’t deserve your attention”. You may escape successfully for some time listening to your mind but you can’t retain this pleasure for a lifetime.

We should not blame our heart, mind or any other entity unable to meet well a difficult situation in life. We don’t always have the same level of maturity and we grow as we learn better.  On a humane side this is quite acceptable as i feel. This learning hardly comes from text books. We must explore life to the fullest if we want to learn and understand ourselves better.

We must accept what we did wrong. Never ever try to cover up your faults citing what others doing as wrong. This will be cheating our own self. If this is true i must accept my own faults and make corrections as required. It is because my actions may not only cause unpleasant situations for myself but there is a great probability it can have adverse effect on others. I must bridge the communication gap in due time. We may find it easy to escape our present environment or this world but can never escape our own soul (what we all term as ‘zameer’ or ‘atma ki aawaz’ in the Indian context).

Do your best to find your loved ones missing now for some reason and talk to them. You may create an event to do all this like at a public function or any other public place with fresh air. Self acceptance is the key. We fail to accept our past as we fail to accept ourselves. We fail to accept ourselves most of the time because of our false ego that misguides and hurt us. We are always concerned about our reputation and social stature. Our mind gets bugged down with a fear what will happen if people come to know this.

We can never erase our scars completely unless we accept ourselves fully without any condition. Surrender yourself completely to the almighty and you can build that power. Ego will vanish when we start thinking about others. This is my personal experience and you may say it an accident.

We are responsible either for our success or failure. Why regret for unpleasant life events of our past when we can do so much good at our present.

There is no need to forget our hard past. This is an escapist attitude. It is because what we are today, our present strengths and weaknesses has been shaped by lessons learned from our past. We can do better if we are a good learner.

I don’t want to indulge with my past anymore for any bad experience and I don’t want to forget as well. It is because no experience is painful but a learning opportunity. Every situation can be faced and let’s consider our past experiences as case studies. I only have sweet memories now.
I am completely at peace and so can you.

Few suggestions as follows for a better living and thinking…

– Live in the present
– Admit your mistakes
– Accept yourself and others
– Remove all toxic elements from your life that cause you think negative time and again
– Stop conducting too much experimentation on yourself and others for which you can’t foresee the future or predict an outcome
– Accept Murphy’s law
– Talk to people as often and spend time with your loved ones
– Spend time with kids and learn simplicity from them as they are the purest souls
– Retain a strong memory and recall as you need

Let me know from your experience how you feel we can do well at our present and minimise the negative impacts of our past.


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SAY NO TO TOBACCO

On world no tobacco day let’s take a pledge : “we will not use any tobacco product ourselves and will generate awareness among others in our community”

It’s quite a sensitive issue when children are exposed to such products in their school days. They follow elders and we can’t blame if we a find a teenager smoking. I have seen small to big signboards and banners at many places with a clear message in block letters. But who cares these ‘no smoking’ warnings. One such board is there in my compound I stay currently. Our colony has several families with school going children. It’s quite harsh to see elders not caring much for the need of others. I don’t know if they don’t understand the need or do not want to understand.

Few public places are no different including our railway compartments. I am sorry to reveal this truth but I have observed this in recent past. It’s not the incompetency of our railway department and they take necessary steps. But it’s a difficult matter to control everything without visit people support in a country with such big population. Another issue is our corrupt mind. Your words has no value and can’t make any difference if you ask somebody to stop smoking sitting besides you when the train ticket collector is well aware but acts as a passerby. Whom do you fear to stop smoking?

Few people have a very narrow mindset. They have creates a group and they think it’s their society. They will not be well respected in their high class society if they stop drinking and smoking. So, it’s a status symbol for them. We need to come quickly out of this close confinement of our mind. This will be possible when we start thinking about others.

Beginning of any change starts with self only. We all know the harmful effects of tobacco products on our health. A passive smoker is as prone to illness as an active smoker. It’s not enough to circulate statutory warnings like ‘consumption of tobacco is injurious to health’.

Any display of such products contain this kind of warning messages as we can find in movies. Does this really help generate awareness among people to quit smoking? I don’t believe so. It’s like asking people to do something at their own risk. Do they understand their habit puts others at risk in their community including their immediate family members?  Everyone exposed to risk when their environment is polluted. Most people think like it’s their personal  matter but it’s not I’m reality. We need to make sure people are denied use of these products.

It’s a big industry worldwide and generates great monetary profit for people in this business. But no business can be termed good at the cost of people and society even though that generates employment for few. Any addiction is bad. Money is not everything in business. We need to think and find all sources of ethical business.

Once we decide to ban all such products and close down all running factories, we need to find some other mode of employment for people working in these industries. Once the working class properly reinstated, stringent decision need to be made at government level with all guidelines including the dare consequences for violators.

By writing all this, I have no intention to hurt the feelings of my friends and acquaintances (who currently have a great love and passion for smoking/drinking). I earnestly seek your support and attention to these issues. Be a volunteer for your locality and try to bring the much needed change.

I wish all have a great time forever by taking the right action now to build a great future for all. Do share your thoughts what can be done better to completely eradicate usage of these products.


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MAKE YOUR DAY COUNT

Never feel upset you have lost one day doing nothing. Replenish yourself with renewed vigour and energy to make everyday count. Never allow any sort of negativity trap you and your determination.

There is no excuse pretending ourselves we have no time. The world outside will remain busy forever. We must find time for our inner world.

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It’s our duty to give time some time daily for self development. We all deserve a fulfilled living.

Let’s spend great time together and cherish our living even at solitude!