In life, we should all inevitably (and hopefully) come to the point where our focus is turned away from ourselves and out into the world. This can come at any age, where we wake up and shift our co…
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BEING IN THE PRESENT
” We regret for our not so pleasant past as we fail to make it glorious. You don’t need a physical time machine. ”
Ohh No…. It should not have happened. I have lost my sleep and sweet dreams of childhood. Any such thought coming to your mind when you are already at an advanced stage in your life? No more worry now. I have a full proof solution for all.
You may find this blog title a laughing stuff at first sight. What is this all about? It this possible? You will find people easily who guide you like ‘just forget it’. Why do you want to remember something painful to you? Never ever fall to this mind game played by others. I don’t say they are not your well wishers and not asking you to ignore them.
They just have a different perspective to life as per their experience. You are not here to live their life. When shall you be able to lead your life if you entertain all these advice? Listen to your heart when you are in between a constant battle of your heart and mind.
I have a very simple question for you. Why is something painful to you and why do you get hurt easily? You can easily find the answer yourself. If you ask the same to me my answer will talk more about our mindset. Actually it’s because when we do things wrong and never because of the wrong doings by others. You have a great brain and a big heart. So, use it and discover life in all it’s abundance full of surprises and happiness.
We all can do it all living at our present. There is absolutely nothing to regret about or escape from. Our mind is such a big time machine. It’s cowardice to escape and we should never build such a plan in mind. To achieve this feat we need to start living life with honesty and not that of crooks.
All of us has huge storage of power and inner potential. Only very few of us recognise this fact and all they lack is the will power. Will power develops better when we think and act with our own mind and not that of others. Listen to your heart when you are in constant battle between your heart and mind.
I virtually forgot few past incidents that always resided in the memory of the subconscious mind. The decision was made in mind as that misguided me constantly telling me you must forget all these bad moments in life. I fell to the trap and did all I would have never done should I have listened to my heart.
I don’t regret but I feel like ohh my god… What a big blunder I committed as i could not bring much goodness to myself and that of others.
Yes, it’s my own deeds and never that of others. You can turn the table either in favour of you or against it by simple but powerful thoughts and unconditional acceptance.
When we live in solitude our mind becomes hyper creative full of thoughts when we revisit our past. No one there to disturb and you are on your own. Few hours of solitude daily may be good for a creative mind but too long a period could be like a prolonged illness. We need to be at a caution side in our calculations how much time we want to devote for each activity.
Many a times we face this question asked by our mind. Shall I make it, break it or simply escape. Sometimes we don’t gather enough courage to face a situation and the weaker zone of our mind guides us to escape. Is that the need for any life challenging situation? Never a good idea.
I am narrating an example. Can you face a person and look straight into the eyes whom you hurt knowingly? Imagine such a situation in your past. The ego mind may misguide you and tell you like “no no.. don’t worry too much. What you did is correct only and this person doesn’t deserve your attention”. You may escape successfully for some time listening to your mind but you can’t retain this pleasure for a lifetime.
We should not blame our heart, mind or any other entity unable to meet well a difficult situation in life. We don’t always have the same level of maturity and we grow as we learn better. On a humane side this is quite acceptable as i feel. This learning hardly comes from text books. We must explore life to the fullest if we want to learn and understand ourselves better.
We must accept what we did wrong. Never ever try to cover up your faults citing what others doing as wrong. This will be cheating our own self. If this is true i must accept my own faults and make corrections as required. It is because my actions may not only cause unpleasant situations for myself but there is a great probability it can have adverse effect on others. I must bridge the communication gap in due time. We may find it easy to escape our present environment or this world but can never escape our own soul (what we all term as ‘zameer’ or ‘atma ki aawaz’ in the Indian context).
Do your best to find your loved ones missing now for some reason and talk to them. You may create an event to do all this like at a public function or any other public place with fresh air. Self acceptance is the key. We fail to accept our past as we fail to accept ourselves. We fail to accept ourselves most of the time because of our false ego that misguides and hurt us. We are always concerned about our reputation and social stature. Our mind gets bugged down with a fear what will happen if people come to know this.
We can never erase our scars completely unless we accept ourselves fully without any condition. Surrender yourself completely to the almighty and you can build that power. Ego will vanish when we start thinking about others. This is my personal experience and you may say it an accident.
We are responsible either for our success or failure. Why regret for unpleasant life events of our past when we can do so much good at our present.
There is no need to forget our hard past. This is an escapist attitude. It is because what we are today, our present strengths and weaknesses has been shaped by lessons learned from our past. We can do better if we are a good learner.
I don’t want to indulge with my past anymore for any bad experience and I don’t want to forget as well. It is because no experience is painful but a learning opportunity. Every situation can be faced and let’s consider our past experiences as case studies. I only have sweet memories now.
I am completely at peace and so can you.
Few suggestions as follows for a better living and thinking…
– Live in the present
– Admit your mistakes
– Accept yourself and others
– Remove all toxic elements from your life that cause you think negative time and again
– Stop conducting too much experimentation on yourself and others for which you can’t foresee the future or predict an outcome
– Accept Murphy’s law
– Talk to people as often and spend time with your loved ones
– Spend time with kids and learn simplicity from them as they are the purest souls
– Retain a strong memory and recall as you need
Let me know from your experience how you feel we can do well at our present and minimise the negative impacts of our past.
Quotations – Not so great!
Following are few quotes by a mystic mind (who doesn’t understand himself/herself well).
” I will do everything to make you cry but you can’t stop laughing out loud now from every corner of your heart. ”
“You and me are no different now. You must first love yourself in order to love me well.”
” I cherish for you but don’t miss you anymore as you live in a house no more hidden to me and which nobody can break. ”
” Life is blissful when you experience sorrow and pleasure at the same time.”
” You are blissful because of the purity of your heart that discards all doubts arising in the mind. ”
” You don’t know how you changed my life. I want to make your day count.”
” Thanks for your annoyance that sparked in me few positive thoughts in abundance.”
” You helped me discover myself and I am filled with everlasting joy & happiness ”
” Heart always speaks of happiness as your best friend and it’s the mind that often brings turbulence. ”
” People sometimes do good to us even without their true knowledge. I will remain ever grateful for your contributions to shape my life. ”
” You are no less an angel to me. Be there always in my life and you decide how.”
” It’s always difficult to bear losing a company of like minded people who care for us. But this loss again changes with our perspective how we see our job – just a job to make money or if you have an higher ordeal. ”
” You are never at loss when our primary job responsibility includes mentoring. Do this on your own self as well at the time of need for a lasting happiness. ”
” Nothing is a loss when our intentions are noble and vision clear. ”
” Help yourself live a life with more peace and joy that can’t be taken away… ”
On this father’s day I was thinking how he is different to my mother and other members in the family. What is his role in our upbringing? Is he ever neglected and paid less attention? Is he the person you admire the most and the most influential in your life?
Children used to build images of their dad in mind. For most of them dad is a rock-star and a superhuman. They discuss among friends at school too. This one talks a lot.
The First Father’s Day (1910)
Father’s Day is a day set apart in many countries for honouring fathers. In the US, UK, and Canada, it is observed on the third Sunday in June. The idea for a father’s day originated when Sonora Louise Smart Dodd of Spokane, Washington, heard a sermon on Mother’s Day in 1909 and was inspired to create a date to honour fathers like her own, a Civil War veteran. Through her efforts, the first Father’s Day was celebrated in Spokane in 1910. When was the holiday made official in the US?
[ Source: http://encyclopedia.thefreedictionary.com/ ]
How close are you to you to your father? Are you successful making him your best friend?
Think. Think.. Think…
It will greatly improve your happiness quotient.
My tribute to all the dads resting in peace now. You left a lasting impression on your children and made a difference to this world. Our social media today flooded with messages to remember you. You can see how much they love you.
Wish all a happy father’s day!
** You may notice the middle part vacant now. It is there for more thoughts to be filled with.
Please read below an experience of a doctor couple who did their best to help a kid who suffered an accident. They are pleading for justice and the post went viral on social media.
” I am describing an incident, which happened on 24th of December 2015 and the after effects of it for a common person.
A doctor couple with their 2yr old child, were returning from Puri on 24the DEC evening. Car speed about 50km/hr. Out of complete darkness, a small girl hits the front wind shield and rolls down from the car on braking (as she was running across the highway ). They stop.( A higher speed vehicle would have run over such a small child ) Child was breathing but unconscious.
How will an average Indian react in such a situation?
a) Flee from the place taking advantage of darkness & forget the incidence
b) Flee from the place, fearing a mob attack & go to the nearest police station to narrate the incidence
c) Take the child to the nearest hospital & drop her at the casualty. Responsibility over & leave her to fate. Go to the police station to narrate the incidence
The doctor couple did something else for which they are suffering since last 6 months.
They carried the girl to nearby Chandanpur PHC, then to Puri district HQ hospital along with her parents in their own car. As the child was unconscious, she was referred to a higher centre.
Parents said that they are very poor, can’t spend a single penny and asked the doctor couple to save the life of their child.
Now, there was only one option. They had to take the child to SUM hospital ( where the doctor couple work) so that immediate attention can be given on credit at dead of the night. Immediately CT scan was done in presence of radiologist ,neurosurgeon and neurologist& ICU specialist. Patient was shifted to ICU. The expert opinion was that operation was not needed, but due to unconsciousness child had to be put on ventilator.
The doctor went to Chandanpur policestation, Puri next day to give information about the accident.
Child stayed in ICU for 19 days with lot of complication and was revived. Afterwards, she was shifted to general ward in stable condition.The doctor couple bore the entire cost of ICU & ward treatment for the first 30 days( approximately 1.5 lakh rupees – which was well beyond their capacity) . There after SUM hospital management took the entire responsibility of the child’s treatment & rehabilitation. No other relatives or village residents of the child came forward to help.
The doctor couple explained the parents about the possibility of getting a good amount of money by insurance claim ( accident ). Her parents refused to even speak to insurance people, to do the processing. Rather they wanted 5 lakh rupees from the doctor couple for the accident caused.
Recovery in such brain injuries will be slow as per neurologists. The parents lost patience and left the child in the hospital.
The doctor couple started gets threatening phone calls from relatives, Media, & other sources . Both of them got scared to pickup any phone calls. But being doctors one can’t avoid picking up calls even at odd times.
Some news paper has already written all wrong things about this incident , charging the doctor of negligence. Some news reporters want the doctor couple to adopt the child for life. Some people claiming to belong to a political group have threatened to kill the doctor couple if five lakh rupees is not paid.
About 3 weeks back, ( since the parents left the girl alone on hospital ),the hospital administration informed police, Child Welfare Commission(CWC) & human rights commission. ThePuri collector, Puri CDMO, CWC combinedto decide to shift the girl to SCBMCH for free physiotherapy and nursing care till her complete recovery. This can happen only in the presence of the parents ( who have left the child alone)
In the absence of parents, SUM hospital has taken utmost care of the child.
Last Monday( 6th June), her parents performed a rally ( with some villagers) infront of SUM Hospital, demanding immediate arrest of the concerned doctor & 5 lakh compensation. Now some media group has started doing false propaganda in facebook & other social media regarding negligence caused by the doctor couple & SUM Hospital.
This is my story & this is what I have gone through in the past 6 months . I am Dr. Chandrasekhar Pradhan, Assistant prof Anaesthesiology&my wife Dr. Rani Sahu, Assistant prof. in Microbiology. We have one child who is in play school& dependent parents.I feel threatened, harassed, humiliated,defamed, in severe mental distress and have difficulty in performing my normal hospital duties.
My honest question to every one who reads this post …….
Is this the reward we get for helping a poor girl child who met with an accident? What is our fault and what can we do to live a normal life and return to hospital work.
The worry is, this can happen to any one of us. Small children are playing on the road and any one of them can rush into our vehicle & even a speed of 40 to 50 km/hr can be disastrous. As a responsible citizen, if I take the child to hospital & try to help as per my capacity, shall I will still be facing this ordeal ? ”
What was their fault? What could have they done better?
In my opinion matters should go public when we work for a noble cause. There should be nothing to hide when we are innocent. But how can we prove our innocence. For that we need to have timely actions as per social need. As responsible citizens we need to abide by the law as well.
Let’s help people as per need and avoid all controversy. When you help somebody you need to have a record somewhere so that people can come to your rescue in case of unpleasant circumstances. You need to have registered details in his hospital records and need to have derails of accident in police records as well. Keep a copy of both with you. Police record will help you know about parents of the kid. The more information you have in public the more secure you are.
Humanity should not be at stake and people need to keep faith doing good for others. Humanity will suffer if we lose that self belief.
Any other opinion?
Please do share your experience to help build a better world.